7 Ways to Give Compliments that Have Nothing to Do with Looks
Updated: Feb 22
Do you have a hard time finding the right words when giving a compliment? Do you find yourself searching for well meaning words to compliment someone that has nothing to do with an article of clothing or how someone looks? If you are looking to spark real connection with someone, giving compliments that go beyond looks can dig deep and make someone feel really special.
Our words matter, even if they are positive reinforcements and compliments. Even well meaning compliments could fuel some people’s addictions or illnesses. For example, advocates in the body positivity and eating disorder space have noted that many of the positive comments they received on their bodies kept them in their thinking that being small equals being more lovable. This is not to say to completely eliminate positive compliments. It is a call to action to consider reducing and removing comments on the bodies of others.
Consider these 7 compliments. It is encouraged to tailor the compliments based on how you like to deliver compliments.
>> Thank you so much for always checking in on me, and for showing me kindness by reaching out. I love your big heart, and wanted to share my gratitude.
>> I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your effort in all that you do. You always put your best foot forward, and it makes it that much more enjoyable to work alongside you.
>> Your easy going attitude is a breath of fresh air. I love spending time with you because it is care free!
>> I wanted to let you know how much I enjoy your positive attitude. It always uplifts me when I hear your voice or see your face.
>> You are really a great listener. I always feel so heard after I tell you something. I was reflecting on how rare and special that is.
>> Your work really inspires me. I know how much effort you put into what you do, and wanted to let you know that after I look at something you put together, I am left feeling inspired and motivated to do my own work!
>> You are a great mom/dad/sister/brother/[fill in the blank]. Your commitment and immense love you give your family is really something to be amazed by. You are doing a great job, and I wanted you to know it.
Bonus Points: Send as a handwritten note
Bonus Points: Set up a phone or video call after delivering the handwritten note